When someone you know comes out of the closet or finds themselves in a same sex relationship part 2:

I know that everyone who has participated in the behavior I am about to discuss meant well and was just trying to show their support but there is a difference between showing support and putting someone in a labeled box.

When someone you know comes out of the closet or finds themselves in a same sex relationship and you suddenly get an urge to share every gay thing you find on the internet on their Facebook page, don’t. First, ask yourself an important question - am I posting this on their page because it has to do with being gay so they obviously will like it? Or am I posting this on their page because I genuinely feel that they will appreciate it? If you can’t decide then maybe find something else that you know they are interested in to let them know you were thinking of them.

Also, when having a conversation with someone who has just come out of the closet or has found themselves in a same sex relationship there is no need to make everything about being gay. We didn’t suddenly lose our interest in the rest of the world just because we put a ring on the finger of someone who also has boobs. The sexual orientation of the person we are discussing is not going to make us like them any more or any less so there is no need to bring it up.

We all just want to be treated like normal human beings….because that’s what we are. Our sexual orientation does not define us. It is not the only thing we care about. We are not a different person than we were when you didn’t know that we liked the same sex. If you didn’t do it then - don’t do it now.

Thank you.

And for the record:

When someone you know comes out of the closet or finds themselves in a same sex relationship (which are not necessarily the same thing… sometimes it’s complicated) the correct response is NOT any form of, “I knew it/told you so.” This can be a very confusing and difficult time for them and the last thing they need is to know that you have been judging them your whole life just waiting to rub it in their face for your own vindication. Just think before you speak.

Sometimes I hear a song that would have been exactly what I needed a few years ago when I was at a different place in my life and then I get sad because the beauty of the song is lost in the poor timing of it’s existance or introduction to my life.

I sometimes think too much.

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